Friday, January 8, 2016

Staying on Track - Reaching Goals – Achieving Resolutions



Well its one week into the New Year.  Did you make some New Year’s resolutions?  Goals?  For yourself?  For your business?  So how are you doing?  What is your track record?  How many goals and/or resolutions did you put on your list that are repeats?  That you either abandoned or didn’t quite attain last year?  Or are you one of the ones that just quit making resolutions and goals?
Lots of questions, I know, but if we keep putting the same goals and resolutions on our list year after year, then it poses the question to ask why.  Why aren’t we reaching these goals?  Is it that important to us?  It must be or we wouldn’t keep putting them on the list time after time, year after year.  Do we lack the skill set?  Hmmm….maybe, maybe not.  If we have the skill set, then do we lack the time?
I had a conversation this past week with a business acquaintance and she talked about ‘staffing for your weaknesses.’  This got me to thinking about why goals and resolutions don’t get achieved, but yet we keep saying we want to reach/achieve said goals and/or resolutions.  Which brings up more questions.
·        Is it really important to us – Will it make us happier, healthier, wealthier if achieved?
·        Do we have the skill set – if not, then why not seek out the expertise needed.  This might be in the areas of our health, diet and/or exercise.  Why not hire a personal trainer and/or a nutritionist, the expertise needed to finally achieve the results wanted.
·        If we have the skill set – is it a strength?  Sometimes we may have the skill set, but it is not a strength or we had rather do something else.  For example:  We may want to get a handle on our finances, profit and loss, etc. for our business.  We know how to do all of this, but it’s not one of our strengths or we just don’t enjoy doing this type of work.  Outsource the work.  Hire a bookkeeper or an accountant who can track the information and provide an analysis.
·        Do we lack the time – or not making the time to put forth the effort?  If it is something someone else can do – outsource it.  For example:  I can and know how to clean my house, but I don’t like to do it so therefore it takes me 3 times as long as it does for the person I have who does it for me.  I had rather be on my computer creating an email marketing newsletter for my clients or setting up clients social media sites.   I enjoy doing that.  So, find the expertise who can do the tasks you don’t have time or don’t want to do yourself.
There are certain aspects of our life and business we like and enjoy doing and we are good at them.  And then there are other things that we may can do, but it’s not a strength and/or we don’t enjoy it.  So comes the question, would we be better off outsourcing the task, hiring the expertise, or it is just something we just have to buckle down and do ourselves.  These are the questions that each of us have to answer and figure out.  My advice is to focus on your strengths, what you enjoy and outsource what you can.  That way you free up the time to concentrate and devote the time to do the things that are your strengths and that you do enjoy and hopefully brings in the revenue to pay for the outsourcing.
Sometimes we can even combine something we enjoy with something we need to do.  I have to put a plug in for my youngest daughter here.  She also works on a computer all day and as a result needs to exercise more.  To solve the issue she has rigged a desk/platform on her treadmill for her computer so she can work and exercise at the same time.  Talk about the 'mother of invention.'  I thinks she is on to something.
So before you abandon your New Year’s resolutions/goals, think about why you want to quit and work through the questions.  And if you need further help, my oldest daughter is a counselor and that’s her expertise, helping people sort things out.
Here’s To Achieving Your Goals in 2016,
Annette
"Helping My Clients and Their Business Look Good"

Saturday, April 10, 2010

The Daffodil Principle


My good friend, Linda Miller, shared this story with me recently.  I had never read it before.  I thought it was so profound that I wanted to share it.

Enjoy!


The Daffodil Principle
~ by: Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come and see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. Going and coming took most of a day--and I honestly did not have a free day until the following week.

"I will come next Tuesday, " I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove the length of Route 91, continued on I-215, and finally turned onto Route 18 and began to drive up the mountain highway. The tops of the mountains were sheathed in clouds, and I had gone only a few miles when the road was completely covered with a wet, gray blanket of fog. I slowed to a crawl, my heart pounding. The road becomes narrow and winding toward the top of the mountain. As I executed the hazardous turns at a snail's pace, I was praying to reach the turnoff at Blue Jay that would signify I had arrived. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren I said, "Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these darling children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!"

My daughter smiled calmly," We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears--and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.

"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car. The mechanic just called, and they've finished repairing the engine," she answered.

"How far will we have to drive?" I asked cautiously.

"Just a few blocks," Carolyn said cheerfully.

So we buckled up the children and went out to my car. "I'll drive," Carolyn offered. "I'm used to this." We got into the car, and she began driving.

In a few minutes I was aware that we were back on the Rim-of-the-World Road heading over the top of the mountain. "Where are we going?" I exclaimed, distressed to be back on the mountain road in the fog. "This isn't the way to the garage!"

"We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils."

"Carolyn," I said sternly, trying to sound as if I was still the mother and in charge of the situation, "please turn around. There is nothing in the world that I want to see enough to drive on this road in this weather."

"It's all right, Mother," She replied with a knowing grin. "I know what I'm doing. I promise, you will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

And so my sweet, darling daughter who had never given me a minute of difficulty in her whole life was suddenly in charge -- and she was kidnapping me! I couldn't believe it. Like it or not, I was on the way to see some ridiculous daffodils -- driving through the thick, gray silence of the mist-wrapped mountaintop at what I thought was risk to life and limb.

I muttered all the way. After about twenty minutes we turned onto a small gravel road that branched down into an oak-filled hollow on the side of the mountain. The Fog had lifted a little, but the sky was lowering, gray and heavy with clouds.

We parked in a small parking lot adjoining a little stone church. From our vantage point at the top of the mountain we could see beyond us, in the mist, the crests of the San Bernardino range like the dark, humped backs of a herd of elephants. Far below us the fog-shrouded valleys, hills, and flatlands stretched away to the desert.

On the far side of the church I saw a pine-needle-covered path, with towering evergreens and manzanita bushes and an inconspicuous, lettered sign "Daffodil Garden."

We each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path as it wound through the trees. The mountain sloped away from the side of the path in irregular dips, folds, and valleys, like a deeply creased skirt.

Live oaks, mountain laurel, shrubs, and bushes clustered in the folds, and in the gray, drizzling air, the green foliage looked dark and monochromatic. I shivered.

Then we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight, unexpectedly and completely splendid. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes where it had run into every crevice and over every rise. Even in the mist-filled air, the mountainside was radiant, clothed in massive drifts and waterfalls of daffodils. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow.

Each different-colored variety (I learned later that there were more than thirty-five varieties of daffodils in the vast display) was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue.

In the center of this incredible and dazzling display of gold, a great cascade of purple grape hyacinth flowed down like a waterfall of blossoms framed in its own rock-lined basin, weaving through the brilliant daffodils.

A charming path wound throughout the garden. There were several resting stations, paved with stone and furnished with Victorian wooden benches and great tubs of coral and carmine tulips. As though this were not magnificence enough, Mother Nature had to add her own grace note -- above the daffodils, a bevy of western bluebirds flitted and darted, flashing their brilliance. These charming little birds are the color of sapphires with breasts of magenta red. As they dance in the air, their colors are truly like jewels above the blowing, glowing daffodils. The effect was spectacular.

It did not matter that the sun was not shining. The brilliance of the daffodils was like the glow of the brightest sunlit day. Words, wonderful as they are, simply cannot describe the incredible beauty of that flower-bedecked mountain top.

Five acres of flowers! (This too I discovered later when some of my questions were answered.) "But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn. I was overflowing with gratitude that she brought me -- even against my will. This was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

"Who?" I asked again, almost speechless with wonder, "And how, and why, and when?"

"It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house, my mind buzzing with questions. On the patio we saw a poster. " Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman, two hands, two feet, and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."

There it was. The Daffodil Principle.

For me that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than thirty-five years before, had begun -- one bulb at a time -- to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. One bulb at a time.

There was no other way to do it. One bulb at a time. No shortcuts -- simply loving the slow process of planting. Loving the work as it unfolded.

Loving an achievement that grew so slowly and that bloomed for only three weeks of each year. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world.

This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principle of celebration: learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time -- often just one baby-step at a time -- learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

"Carolyn," I said that morning on the top of the mountain as we left the haven of daffodils, our minds and hearts still bathed and bemused by the splendors we had seen, "it's as though that remarkable woman has needle-pointed the earth! Decorated it. Just think of it, she planted every single bulb for more than thirty years. One bulb at a time! And that's the only way this garden could be created. Every individual bulb had to be planted. There was no way of short-circuiting that process. Five acres of blooms. That magnificent cascade of hyacinth!

All, all, just one bulb at a time."

The thought of it filled my mind. I was suddenly overwhelmed with the implications of what I had seen. "It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!" My wise daughter put the car into gear and summed up the message of the day in her direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said with the same knowing smile she had worn for most of the morning. Oh, profound wisdom!

It is pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use tomorrow?"

In appreciation,
Annette
"Helping You and Your Business Look Good"

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